He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not, He LIKES ME!!! (and I'm exhausted...)

Lovelies, I have been a BUSY girl on the dating scene the past 2 weekends! My social calendar is FULL!

Last weekend I went on a date with the Tennis Pro on Friday night, the College Professor on Saturday night and the long time coming date with Straight Cute Banker on Sunday evening... It was a busy weekend, indeed... So let's re-cap...

Friday Night: Tennis Pro

Oh, lovelies, I was sourly disappointed with this whole thing... He did book the date a few days in advance (via text - which always is lame in my opinion! I like when dudes call!) but when it came to what we were doing, he suggested a movie. Now we haven't seen each other in 6 weeks - and he's only texted a handful of times... I wasn't pleased with the fact that we'd be sitting in a dark theatre unable to chat about our months adventures...

And then he picked the bloody movie! I was totally excited to go and see "The Invention of Lying" and he goes and picks "The Informant" - which is a crap movie... Netflix if you must see it, but really, try and avoid it.

At the beginning there was crap conversation, we have no more "spark" AND, lovelies, halfway through the movie he put his hand on my knee and tried to do the "let's hold hands & touch knees" move. Uugh. I promptly removed his hand and said "I don't let my friends caress my knees." Then he fell asleep during the remainder of the film - which was fine with me. We said our good byes, I hopped on the subway and was home in bed eating ice cream and watching 30 Rock DVD's by 12:30.

SATURDAY: The College Professor

Lovelies, let me just say this - I wish I had a stronger interest in the College professor because he is SO nice! He treats me like a queen and is very respectful of me and really honors me. I love that. (and my life coach said that it is good for me to receive that and enjoy it! A dude who is not afraid to show interest & honor who I am as a person!)

So we went to the Shake Shack for dinner - ohmygod - I LOVE the Shake Shack. Outdoors, delicious burgers -- and the Shack sauce... Heaven, lovelies. So he won for location, he won with conversation - we swapped many stories and some of his were actually interesting tonight! He is so kind and mild mannered and soft spoken... A very good thing to balance out the "crazy" in me.

We went to see "The Invention of Lying" after - such a funny & cute movie! And the best part was that he let me pick the movie! I gave him 3 suggestions and he chose! So we both won!

After he walked me to the train and gave me a little peck - was nice and I surprisingly wasn't grossed out by it! (you know when you have an average to good date and then you kiss the dude at the end - if you're grossed out the deal is off... I've had that happen before.) But this was warm and I love that he asked me to text him when I got home safe..

But he lives in New Rochelle... Sigh. I know I live in Queens, but c'mon - New Rochelle is a LONG ASS ways away... We're going on our 3rd date next Saturday. In the city.

SUNDAY: Straight Cute Banker!!!!

Lovelies - I've been looking forward to this for a while. I had actually lost (or thought I had lost) straight cute bankers business card, so when the card re-surfaced when I was cleaning out my desk drawer I thought "I should call him!" which I did.

I usually don't do the asking, but from our brief conversation, I thought that it might just be fun to get to know a little more about him and his story of where he came from, how he got to NYC - and worst comes to worst - I make a new friend.

Well, he took me to the Radiance Tea house (what a great first date location) and we had 2 huge pots of tea and some little nibbles.... Lovelies, he was so handsome I just about fell out of my chair. And so funny, and kind and sweet and non-judgemental!

And I really feel like he knows who he is and what he wants... Very open minded. And he's always ready to add to the conversation! And he loves old movies - AND he listens to Prairie Home Companion, plays the violin and the mandolin, loves Poetry and Opera! (Whew! I'm breathing heavily now - I get very turned on by smart, artsy, language-lovin' dudes who are straight and not in the business...)

Lovelies, I cannot tell you how much I was hoping that Cute Banker and I would hit it off - and he called on Wednesday and asked me out for this past Saturday! (There may have been Happy Dancin' involved after I hung up the phone - I'm just sayin'...)

and dates for THIS PAST WEEKEND:

FRIDAY: Young Lawyer.

A match.com date, young lawyer is delightful! Grew up in Connecticut, is one month older than me, just moved to NYC 2 months ago, works in cooperate law, and is tall with a nice smile, good hair and a charming self-deprecating wit to him. He made me giggle! And the conversation was quite good!

We went to Employees Only for drinks. What a fun bar! I had never been there before, but it was highly recommended, so I trucked my cookies down to the village after work. Brilliant atmosphere! And they had a tarot card reader in the front of the bar! I got my cards read on the way out - and it was word for word everything that my life coach told me on Thursday morning - creepy... And the Young Lawyer wasn't too creeped out by it!

Then the Young Lawyer took me to the trendy Market Table - which had FANTASTIC food! I totally ordered for us - which he seemed OK with! (we got 4 little appetizers to share!) It was such a great light meal! And after the meal of good & fun conversation he hailed a cab for me, we had a very short peck on the kisser and then I went home. (and had to pay - we all know how Mama Musical feels about paying for her own cab on the first date... No likey.) But I can overlook the cab thing, as it was a pretty fun night!

SATURDAY: Date #2 with Straight Cute Banker

Ohmystars, lovelies! I was super excited for this date, too - but it's crazy, I work myself up for it (all the while trying to think "This could just be a friend thing, don't get too excited!"). So he let me know that he would pick a place that was in midtown east so I could get there easy. We went to this great Greek place called Ethos - kind of upscale Greek food. It was PACKED when we got there, and we had reservations! (which he made, bless his heart! A man in NYC who knows to make dinner reservations - I LOVE that!

So the conversation was Ah-mazing! He is so great at picking up where I leave off and he doesn't mind my random-ness... (truth be told, I think he enjoys it!) And he really listens to what I say and then references it at times! So great! We talked a lot about music, old movies, our families, trips we've been on, and several other subjects! Just so fun to share with him & hear what he has to say back! (I need to do a better job at listening -- sometimes I get so excited to share that I forget to put on my listening ears...)

He was just as handsome & charming as ever, very kind and warm, non-judgemental and open. All things that I so enjoy. Only (very small, almost not noticeable) downfall is that he's my height exactly, if not half an inch shorter, so it kind of sucks that I can't wear heels and I want to bend my legs a little when we walk together... I don't like the idea of kissing down, but that may not be the case if we're both barefoot... Something to look forward to!

Anywho - after the great Greek dinner we went to a little piano bar called Mimis - was such fun! They played some great songs! And there was this SUPER drunk guy there, we'll call him Dennis, and he kept slurring his words and saying to Cute Banker "God, she's really beautiful, isn't she??" referring to me, and Cute Banker just looked me straight in the eyes and said "Yes, I've thought that for a while now..." I thought I was going to melt into the floor!

Then we went for one more nightcap at a little pub on the UES and after on the street he kissed me - for quite a bit! Was just delightful - and I had the zing/ bells/ whistles! It's been a long time since I've felt that... Now I just have to not day dream about him and focus on me and getting done with stuff I have to get done. But not before....

SUNDAY: Clark Kent

Lovelies, this new guy I went to the Museum of Natural History with was just a scream! He's a little younger than what I usually date (which means he's a year and a half older than me) and also a little awkward, but had pretty good conversational skills and also was very go-with-the-flow kind of guy. And I just about fell over when I saw him -- Mc. Dreamy Clark Kent-type with a twist of school boy!

He was very nice and we went all over the Natural History Museum - it was his first time there! Was kind of exciting to see the Museum through the eyes of someone who has never seen the big whale or the dinos before! And he was funny, smart, kind, warm and all of the good things I look for... but it was still so new and I wasn't quite sure about his sense of humor, so I just tried to enjoy and be myself! We went to starbucks after and took our coffees and sat on a big rock right by the pond in Central Park and watched the sunset! Was kind of romantic - we split a biscotti! (gawd, lovelies - it's the little things sometimes with me)

He walked me to the subway and we had a little peck, and now lovelies, here I am blogging to all of you...

I'd have to say that I was able to take away something from each of these dates! Like my life coach says "Enjoy having others recognize you!" - and believe-you-me, I am! Oh, yes... I am.

Never in my life have I so badly wanted to be Lois Lane!

Gotta Find Something Else to Do Tonight

Lovelies, I was supposed to go on a 3rd date tonight, but (tear) he just called last night while I was in class & canceled. He has to work, has to tie up loose ends because he is leaving on a 3 week family vacation this week, yadda, yadda, yadda....

He called again this morning to see if I had gotten the voicemail. He sounded disappointed on the phone and asked when I was leaving for the Hamptons this week. When I told him I was heading out there on Wednesday morning and coming home on Sunday and he said in his cute Australian accent "Well, that's not good news Miss Musical! I was hoping to see you before I left on my trip! Can we get together when I get back from vacation?"

The scary thing is lovelies - I didn't realize how tightly I have screwed the cap onto Miss Musicals "jar of love". I turned off my heart, so to speak, and was quite happy for the majority of the time! But now my world has been rocked a little and now I am sad that we aren't having date number 3. Sigh. Still stuck in my 2 date rut...

But who knows, he could actually follow through with asking me out for date number 3 when he returns. (Do men still do that? Follow up on stuff that they said they'd do? I sure hope so, lovelies!)

ANYWHO - I think I'm going to treat myself to see 9 to 5 on Broadway tonight. I've heard it's actually a pretty good show and that there's some cute & memorable songs in it! I love Dolly's writing and will throw my money at anything she lays a finger on! :)

Oh, Men!

Lovelies, I've been running errands for the Lady of the House today and I saw the most BEAUTIFUL man on the street!  I winked at him.  He looked at me like something was wrong with my eye.  ...Oh, it's springtime, my hormones are telling me to make little Ms. Musicals and I've gotten to that point where I wink & smile at total handsome strangers.  I actually enjoy flirting - but I'm not very good at it! 

I actually had to think "flirt with this man" before I did it!  I mean, I'm really good at being nice & laughing and all - and I'm pretty funny, but the actual "being sexy & flirting" thing is not my strong suit.  How does one practice at this and get better - especially when there's only 1 in about 20 men who I'd even consider flirting with...

The other day I was on the subway.  It was me, 5 other women, and close to 30 men...  I only liked 2 of them!  What is my problem?!  I think I'm just a super picky girl.  

Usually when I go on dates I have 2 requirements: 1. Do they make me feel like a good person? 2. Do they make me laugh?  Those 2 things are at the top of my list every time!  Of course, if both these things happen-- it's a jackpot!  

Also, does anyone out there like men to call you on the phone?  Not text, but call...  I like them to call!  Even if it's just a quick, "Hey, I was just thinking about you."  I just like to hear their voice.  It's nice, you know?  Like when they ask you out at the end of the first date for the next date - it's just nice!

And I may have said this before, but I hate Hate HATE text messaging.  Fine for when you need to know locations, etc - but to have a real conversation over texting - well that's just wrong.  I love to hear vocal tone, how quick they can think on their feet, and most importantly - if they're good conversationalists.  (SO important!)  

I've found that most the men here in NY are happy going through life without a passion for anything, living blase lives & can't hold a decent conversation!  WTF?!?  I don't care if your passion is fly fishing or organizing your empty Cheetos bag collection - it's just gotta be SOMETHING!!  (now because I'm a crazy person, my passion is my job - theatre, but it doesn't have to be that big -just give me a human who has a desire to get as much out of this life as possible!)

Perhaps it's true when Frenchy in the movie Grease says "The only guy a girl can depend on is her Daddy."  But I sure hope there's someone out there who I'll be able to depend on in the future...  Or maybe I just need to read the book above.

Tours, Texts & E-mails - Oh, my!

Lovelies,  today has been pretty uneventful so far...  Woke up late (uugh- that's $$ that I'll be missin' out on -- I get paid hourly, so when I don't work the cash doesn't come in!)  

BUT I did go on a tour today with the Urban Mothers Group - we went to the Whitney Museum and saw the biennial exhibit.  It's mainly of new emerging artists - very interesting stuff!  (mainly sculpture and video art, but overall was great!)  And our tour guide told us the stories behind the works of art & of how their makers chose (or didn't choose in some cases) to present the final product.  

Some of it was TOTALLY beyond my grasp, but the guide was very good at making what could be seen as just another exposed large photograph or just a pile of colored bees wax into a work of art -- I love that I get to call myself an artist, too!  It's fun for me to breathe life into a song or text.  (Speaking of fun - I still have to do my homework for the Musical Theatre Class I'm taking tonight!  I love me some Boyle, it's true -he's the guru for Musical Theatre lovin' folk here in NYC.  

So that brings me to work... where I'm at right now - calling Manhattan Mini Storage and waiting for a text from Cute Upper East Side Guy...  

Lovelies, did I do the right thing to send him a reminder text?  He hadn't called me, but told me on Friday night what a great time he had & that he would like to take me out again sometime.  But then never called.  So today - because I need closure - sent him a text & here's how things are playing out...

Miss M: Cute Guy!  Really enjoyed meeting you last week.  Thanks again for the great evening!  All the best - Miss Musical

And he responded:

CG: Hey there you are.  I had fun as well.  How's your day going...

Miss M: Great!  Just wrapped up a museum tour - was really interesting!  How's your day going?

CG: Not too bad.  Mad Busy with work though - sucks.  Want to be outside.  What museum?

Miss M: The Whitney.   Lots of Sculptures & Video Art!  Bummer that work is busy for you... Hope it gets better!  :)

And I haven't back from him yet.  (Mind you this is all of 15 minutes ago - so now I've laid the groundwork.  I texted.  I let him know I was still alive.  Now it's his turn to make the move...  

...or perhaps I've just got to face the fact that I was the first to get in touch and that usually means - what ladies?!  Say it with me:

He's Just Not that Into You!

I hate when that fucking book is right...  and it happens so many more times than not.  

On an up-note I'm drinking a lovely diet Coke right now - which can put a smile on my face at any time!  (I'm so easy to please... give me a diet Coke and a sunny day & I'm a happy girl!)

I have a crush...

Lovelies...  It's spring in NY, the birds are chirping, the bees are buzzing, and I have that glorious feeling where you are so freakin' excited to see someone you want to jump out of your skin!

I am totally smitten with this particular fella in my life right now.  One word: Dreamy.  Oh, wait - a second word: Kind.  Yeah, dreamy kindness makes this girl melt every time.  

And he's tall.  And semi-exotic (he's a half & half -- half American, half something that makes me want to ravish him, declare my undying love for him and suggest that we move to his homeland and make little Portuguese speaking babies...)  Sigh...

But things that I am mad at myself about:

1. I should not be using all my precious mental time day dreaming about someone I hardly know - for heaven sakes - he could work at McDonald's and live in his parents basement!  (I highly doubt that, but one never knows  does one..)  That is unless one asks which college you went to, what are you planning to do with your life if the theatre thing doesn't work out...

2. He's an actor.  I NEVER EVER date actors.  They are one big mess of trouble - and every actor I've hooked up with or dated has come to me soon after declaring his love of Ethel Merman and telling me that he "likes men now".  I don't want to be someone else's pit stop out of the closet - really... twice was enough... (Oh, College.  Sigh...)

3. Deep down, I worry if I really deserve to feel this way.  I often worry that because I'm a size 10, will anyone love me?  It seems like all the pretty thin girls are OK and get the gold stamp to go on and achieve happiness.  But for some reason, I feel like my bigger mid-section and normal size legs would be SO gross to any man...  I'm not a thin girl and for some god awful reason I've come to the conclusion that pretty= thin.  And Thin does not = Miss Musical...

Terrible, I know, and I hate wallowing here (but permit me to wallow for one moment more).  I do not try and complain about my body to others, but I hate it sometimes.  I really do.  I wish I could be as thin as my girlfriend Lo, or have boobs that actually match my larger frame (God played a cruel trick on me and gave me a size 10 waist and A cup boobies.  It sucks.)  

Now I have nice legs, pretty eyes, and a great smile -- but so do half the other bitches in NYC and most of them are also a size 4.  (My secret weapon is that I have more personality and zest for life in my little finger than most people have in their life!  This is a perk & a draw back, though... )

Bottom line - Totally smitten with the fella...   But why am I having so much trouble being smitten with myself - life is way to short to sweat the small stuff!  I have my health and my sanity and all my family members are safe & healthy - what more could any girl ask for, really?