I actually had to think "flirt with this man" before I did it! I mean, I'm really good at being nice & laughing and all - and I'm pretty funny, but the actual "being sexy & flirting" thing is not my strong suit. How does one practice at this and get better - especially when there's only 1 in about 20 men who I'd even consider flirting with...
The other day I was on the subway. It was me, 5 other women, and close to 30 men... I only liked 2 of them! What is my problem?! I think I'm just a super picky girl.
Usually when I go on dates I have 2 requirements: 1. Do they make me feel like a good person? 2. Do they make me laugh? Those 2 things are at the top of my list every time! Of course, if both these things happen-- it's a jackpot!
Also, does anyone out there like men to call you on the phone? Not text, but call... I like them to call! Even if it's just a quick, "Hey, I was just thinking about you." I just like to hear their voice. It's nice, you know? Like when they ask you out at the end of the first date for the next date - it's just nice!
And I may have said this before, but I hate Hate HATE text messaging. Fine for when you need to know locations, etc - but to have a real conversation over texting - well that's just wrong. I love to hear vocal tone, how quick they can think on their feet, and most importantly - if they're good conversationalists. (SO important!)
I've found that most the men here in NY are happy going through life without a passion for anything, living blase lives & can't hold a decent conversation! WTF?!? I don't care if your passion is fly fishing or organizing your empty Cheetos bag collection - it's just gotta be SOMETHING!! (now because I'm a crazy person, my passion is my job - theatre, but it doesn't have to be that big -just give me a human who has a desire to get as much out of this life as possible!)
Perhaps it's true when Frenchy in the movie Grease says "The only guy a girl can depend on is her Daddy." But I sure hope there's someone out there who I'll be able to depend on in the future... Or maybe I just need to read the book above.
At least you have the guts to do some sorta flirting!!! hehe :D
ReplyDeleteOh and I'm the same way....very picky sometimes.