Surprise Date # 3!

Lovelies, the Tennis Pro and I did end up having date number three before he left for his vacay this weekend! Hooray!

My boss told me on Friday that I was going back to the city that night! (I thought I was due to stay in the Hamptons all weekend, but turns out she didn't need me!) Hooray! I promptly called the Tennis Pro and told him that I would be back in the city if he'd like to grab a late bite to eat!

He e-mailed me back quickly and said that'd be great! Now - my favorite part - I texted him the name of a little bistro by the Jitney drop-off I go to in the city on the UES and his reply back was: I'll be there!

Love that, lovelies. And he's very attentive and fun to be around! It's so nice to think that someone is interested in me and cares enough to meet me for a late bite to eat, even though he had to leave at 6am the next morning for his flight!

AND lovelies, he gave me a nice solid peck at the end of the evening - but he's so quick! I hardly get a chance to show him my skills and he's already pulled back. Uugh. I don't know if he's trying to be respectful or if he's not that attracted to me or what... I just want to make out with the dude! Is that so much to ask!?! Le Sigh...

Winner. He wins. (and now I retreat to the Hamptons again, for another week of sun, childcare and great food - compliments of Lady & Master of the House!)

Weekend Fun-Ness....

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One for the Record books...

In August I met a pretty great guy. He's half British, half Brazilian, works for L'Oreal and enjoys theatre, arts & conversation. (What's that you say? "Perfect fit for Ms. Musical!" ... Yes, one would think so...)

We dated for a little over two months. He always asked me out for the next date at the end of the the date we were currently on, called me every few days to chat & generally seemed to really think I was a great girl. (He told me quite often how great he thought I was -- and let's be honest - I agreed!)

SO end of September rolls around he calls me one Thursday night out of the blue and says "I really like you, Ms. Musical, but I don't ever see us getting married. BUT, I really like to hang out with you, so can we remain friends and just cut out the sex?" Normally, because I'm a smart girl, I would say a firm No... But, as with this particular boy (let's call him Bean-O, since he had a thing for British canned beans) I was not quite so smart. So I gave him my best "I need time to and when I'm good and ready THEN we can be friends!"

---here's the kicker ---

I meant it and so did he. Friendship was for sure in the future. Because, honestly - I thought he was going to be a good fella to bounce things off of.

Thus, two months after we split I invited Bean-O to thanksgiving at my brothers house. (Nothing naughty - for all those of you thinking naughty things). I didn't think he'd accept, but he did. Thanksgiving rolls around, he joins us. A great day overall and fun is had by all! Friendly hug goodbye at the train station and we go our separate ways and I forget about him. Normal, right?

So two weeks later, I pass by a new Brazilian restaurant and think - "Bean-O and I should check this out! Looks tasty!" I called and left a friendly message. No answer. Fine - totally understandable.

I had a cabaret coming up that weekend and send a mass e-mail to all my friends to invite them.

A few days later I get this e-mail in my in-box:

I wanted to write to you about something else which I didn't get to mention when I last saw you (it wasn't like it was a thing that just"popped-up" into conversation and that is that I'm seeing someone else -quite seriously in fact. I didn't think it would be a problem that she would know about me spending thanksgiving with an ex but she flipped -really flipped. I didn't realize that it would get such a reaction but it did and now she's asked me not to be in-touch with you or any other exes. I like her a lot and I respect her wishes and so that's where I lie on this situation. I'm really sorry Ms.Musical, truly I am but I won't be able to make it to your performance (I wish you all the best at least).

WHAT?! Isn't that A.) A little "High School" of his girlfriend and B.) Totally ridiculous! If he didn't want to keep in touch with me, I'd rather he bloody well tell me than beat around the bush in this kind of fashion!!!

So I wrote him this in response:

Thanks for the e-mail. I'm sad that we can't be friends anymore.

I'm pleased to hear that you're happy. I have moved on & am happily dating new people as well... I can see where she is coming from, but just to clarify - I don't want anything from you in "that way" anymore... I just wanted to be friends. Plain & simple. I was very pleased you could join my brother & I for thanksgiving & hope that you had a good time as well.

I wish you all the best with work & your new relationship - if eventually your gal feels like you can be friends with me again please let me know. I will not try to contact you anymore and please send my apologies to your girlfriend. I didn't mean to offend with the thanksgiving offer, just wanted to be friends again... All the best for a happy & healthy year, Ms. Musical.

Classy (and adult) response, right??

So Blog-ing fans in Cyberspace: I tried to take the high road with this one. I'm still so mad that this girl would put restrictions on him like that -- I would NEVER say that to a guy. EVER. Am I a crazy person to think that her request was TOTALLY insane??? (and can I take lessons from her to learn how to keep my man on that short of a leash!!)

And is it horrible that I'm not only mad at him & this new girl, but I'm also pissed off at myself for STILL thinking about this. It's a big deal, but not THAT big of a deal... I still have a job, I can still support myself and I still have an awesome family.

Comments & thoughts are welcome on this one.

Until we meet again, your tune humming blogger,

Ms. Musical

There's a First Time for Everything!

Well, friends, welcome to my little blog! I'm having a little tiff with myself right now - mainly regarding the two most important things in my life: musical theatre and men. (I'm guessing that this is what this blog will mainly be about... But you never know... I always have a couple of surprises up my sleeve!)

So I'm still fairly optimistic about my career and the fellas, however neither is happening to appear at the time when I want it!! Here's what my heart desires (and not necessarily in this order)

1. Working in Theatre on Broadway or Tour (heck let's be honest - I'll take major regional tour!)

2. Find a kind man who loves me & who I can love in return.

Sounds simple enough, right?

WRONG!!!

And here's the kicker - whenever one is going well, the other goes well too! But when one area is going bad, then the others seem to follow in suit. Perhaps this is the laws of attraction working within my life, but let's be honest here - some people just get REALLY lucky! I had a big break-out role when I lived in Minneapolis, but after a year and a half in NY with no bites and a handful of callbacks... well... what am I supposed to think?!

SO I've decided to start this blog to track the change in my life that IS going to occur in the next year! And you, dear reader, get to come along for the crazy ride that is my life! Buckle Up!